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Disability & Neurodiversity​

ADHD

​Understanding ADHD in Children and Teens
ADHD (Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder) is a neurodevelopmental difference that affects how the brain manages attention, impulse control, energy, and emotions. It is not caused by poor parenting or a lack of effort. Children and teens with ADHD often work much harder than it appears just to keep up.

Strengths of ADHD Brains
Children and teens with ADHD often have unique strengths that are easy to overlook in traditional settings. Their brains are wired for creativity, curiosity, and big-picture thinking.
Many children and teens with ADHD are:
  • Highly creative and imaginative
  • Energetic and enthusiastic
  • Strong problem-solvers who think outside the box
  • Passionate about topics that interest them - which can result in Hyperfocus
  • Empathetic and emotionally intuitive
  • Resilient and adaptable
When their interests are engaged and their needs are supported, kids with ADHD can show intense focus, leadership, and innovation. Recognizing and nurturing these strengths helps build confidence, motivation, and a positive sense of self.

The Many Ways ADHD Can Show Up
ADHD does not look the same in every child or teen. While some experience visible hyperactivity, others struggle quietly with attention, emotions, or mental overload. Because ADHD is often misunderstood, many children—especially girls—go unnoticed and unsupported.

Common Ways ADHD May Appear
  • Difficulty focusing or staying on task
    or Hyperfocus where they will get so focused on something they like that they are hard to pull away from it

  • Forgetfulness or frequently losing items
  • Trouble starting or finishing tasks
  • Impulsivity or acting before thinking
  • Restlessness or a constant need to move
  • Emotional intensity or big reactions
  • Difficulty with transitions or changes
  • Trouble with organization and time management
  • Becoming easily overwhelmed or mentally fatigued

How ADHD Often Shows Up in Girls
Girls with ADHD are more likely to experience inattentive or internalized symptoms, which can be mistaken for personality traits rather than signs of ADHD.

Many girls work hard to mask their struggles, especially in school or social settings.

In girls, ADHD may look like:
  • Daydreaming or appearing “spacey”
  • Quietly struggling to keep up academically
  • Anxiety or perfectionism
  • Strong emotional sensitivity
  • Low self-esteem despite high effort
  • Social overwhelm or people-pleasing
  • Mental restlessness rather than physical hyperactivity

Because these signs are less disruptive, girls with ADHD are often diagnosed later in life—or not at all.

ADHD Changes with Age
As children grow into teens, hyperactivity may become less visible, while challenges with focus, motivation, emotional regulation, and executive functioning become more prominent. Teens with ADHD may appear capable on the outside while feeling overwhelmed internally.

A Key Reminder
ADHD is not a lack of intelligence, effort, or motivation! 
It is a genetic difference in how the brain processes information and regulates attention and emotions.

When we recognize all the ways ADHD can present, we can offer better support—especially to children who have been overlooked.






Parenting Children with ADHD
Parenting Children with ADHD
Parenting a child with ADHD means parenting a brain that works differently—not a child who is unmotivated or defiant. Children with ADHD often want to do well but struggle with attention, impulse control, emotional regulation, and organization. Support, structure, and understanding make a powerful difference.

Lead With Connection
Children with ADHD respond best when they feel safe, understood, and connected. Prioritize relationship before correction. Calm presence builds regulation. Punishment builds fear and resentment.

Keep Expectations Clear and Simple
Use short instructions, visual reminders, and predictable routines. Break tasks into small, manageable steps. Use sticky notes when you send a child to do a task or to get something.  Create visual checklists or To Do lists.  This may feel more time consuming, but you'll find the effort on the front-end results in greater success in the long run.  As well, it builds confidence and competency in your child.

​Support Emotional Regulation
ADHD affects emotions as much as attention. Help your child name feelings, take breaks, and use calming strategies before problem-solving.

Focus on Strengths
Notice effort, creativity, humor, curiosity, and persistence. Children with ADHD thrive when their strengths are recognized and nurtured.  They often feel like they can't do anything right so focusing on what they do well, will build their internal self-talk to recognize the good.

Use Consistent, Compassionate Boundaries
Clear limits paired with empathy help children feel safe. Consequences should teach—not shame. Use consequences that are appropriate to the infraction.  For example, being restricted from going out with friends does not teach the child with impulsivity to be less impulsive.  Teaching a child with ADHD how to process what went wrong can help them build the skills necessary to prevent it from going wrong again.  Teachable moments are more often helpful in the long run than punishments or consequences that tend to build resentment.

Helping Your Child Succeed at School
School can be especially challenging for children with ADHD due to high demands on focus, organization, and sitting still. Collaboration with educators is key.

Advocate Early and Often
You know your child best. If school feels overwhelming, struggling, or emotionally draining for your child, it’s okay to ask for support.

Understanding Special Education, IEPs, and Section 504
Children with ADHD may qualify for school accommodations or services—even if they are academically capable.

Section 504 Plans
A 504 Plan provides accommodations that help level the playing field in a general education classroom.
Common 504 accommodations include:
  • Extended time on tests and assignments
  • Preferential seating
  • Reduced distractions
  • Movement breaks
  • Chunked instructions or assignments
  • Use of planners, checklists, or assistive technology
Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act of 1973 is a federal civil rights law that requires public institutions to provide reasonable accommodations to people with disabilities so that they have equal access.

Individualized Education Programs (IEPs)
An IEP provides specialized instruction and services when ADHD significantly impacts learning or behavior.
An IEP may include:
  • Specialized academic instruction
  • Behavioral or executive functioning support
  • Counseling or social skills support
  • Modified workload or teaching strategies
IEPs are more intensive than 504 Plans and are governed by special education law.

Supporting Your Child at Home with School
  • Create a consistent homework routine and stick to it
  • Use visual schedules and timers
  • Check in daily—not just about grades, but stress levels
  • Teach self-advocacy skills over time
  • Celebrate effort more than outcomes

Partnering With Your Child’s School
  • Communicate regularly with teachers
  • Request meetings if concerns arise
  • Document challenges and successes
  • Ask what supports are available
  • Remember: advocating is not “being difficult”—it’s being responsive to your child's needs.

A Final Encouraging Note for Parents
Children with ADHD don’t need harsher discipline--they need more support, flexibility, and understanding. With the right strategies and school accommodations, children with ADHD can build confidence, resilience, and lifelong skills.

You are not failing your child by asking for help.
You are teaching them how to succeed in a world that wasn’t built for every brain—but that can learn to be successful.

Autism Spectrum Disorder
Understanding Children and Teens with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD)
Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) is a neurodevelopmental difference that affects how individuals communicate, process sensory information, interact socially, and experience the world. Autism is a spectrum, meaning each child or teen has a unique profile of strengths, needs, and abilities.
Autism is not a behavior problem or a lack of effort—it reflects differences in how the brain develops and processes information.

What Autism Can Look Like
Autism may show up in a variety of ways, including:
  • Differences in communication, verbal or nonverbal
  • Strong preference for routines and predictability
  • Sensitivities to sounds, lights, textures, foods, or movement
  • Deep focus or strong interests in specific topics and disinterest in all other things.

  • Differences in social interaction or understanding social cues
  • Emotional intensity or difficulty with transitions (Tantrums)
These traits can vary widely and may change over time.

Strengths and Support
Many children and teens with autism are thoughtful, creative, detail-oriented, honest, and deeply passionate about their interests. With understanding, supportive environments, and appropriate accommodations, autistic children and teens can learn, connect, and thrive.

The goal of support is not to change who a child is, but to create environments that respect neurodiversity and help them succeed.
A Gentle Reminder for Parents
Parenting a child with ASD can be both challenging and deeply rewarding. Progress may not follow a typical path, but it is still progress. Your understanding, patience, and advocacy help create a world where your child feels accepted, capable, and valued.
Parenting Children with ASD
Parenting Children with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD)
Parenting a child with Autism Spectrum Disorder means supporting a child who experiences and interacts with the world differently. Autism is not something to be fixed—it is a genetic neurodevelopmental difference. With understanding, structure, and respect for individuality, children with ASD can thrive, build meaningful relationships, and develop independence.

Parenting Approaches That Support Success

Prioritize Safety, Trust, and Connection
Children with ASD do best when they feel safe and understood. Building trust through consistency, empathy, and predictable responses helps reduce anxiety and supports emotional regulation.

Respect Sensory Needs
Many children on the spectrum experience sensory sensitivities or sensory-seeking behaviors. Adjusting environments, offering sensory supports, and honoring sensory limits can prevent overwhelm and support regulation. This may include sensitivities to foods that can appear as defiant or refusal to try new things.  Allow for these preferences by being calm and understanding.  
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Create Predictable Routines
Clear routines and visual schedules help children understand expectations and feel secure. Predictability reduces stress and supports transitions.

Communicate Clearly and Directly
Use simple, concrete language and visual supports when helpful. Avoid relying on implied meanings or sarcasm, which can be confusing.

Support Emotional Regulation
Big emotions may show up as shutdowns, meltdowns, or withdrawal. These are signs of feeling overwhelmed, not misbehavior. Focus on calming first, then problem-solving once regulation is restored.

Encouraging Growth and Independence
Support independence by teaching skills in small steps and allowing extra time for mastery. Celebrate effort, progress, and self-advocacy. Independence may look different, but it is meaningful.

Partnering With Schools and Support Teams
Many children with ASD benefit from school-based supports such as IEPs, 504 Plans, therapies, or accommodations. Parents play a key role by collaborating with educators, sharing insights, and advocating for supports that respect their child’s strengths and needs.

Cognitive Disabilities
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Understanding Cognitive Disabilities
Cognitive disabilities affect how a person learns, processes information, remembers, and solves problems. These differences can impact reading, math, attention, reasoning, or understanding new concepts. Cognitive disabilities are not a reflection of intelligence or effort—they describe how the brain processes information.

What Cognitive Disabilities Can Look Like
​Cognitive disabilities may show up in many ways, including:
  • Learning at a different pace than peers
  • Difficulty with memory, attention, or problem-solving
  • Challenges with reading, writing, or math
  • Trouble understanding or following multi-step instructions
  • Needing information presented in different ways
These differences can range from mild to more significant and may change over time with support and experience.

Strengths and Support
Many individuals with cognitive disabilities have strong skills in creativity, empathy, visual thinking, hands-on learning, or perseverance. With appropriate supports, accommodations, and understanding, children and teens with cognitive disabilities can learn, grow, and succeed in meaningful ways.

The focus is not on “fixing” the individual, but on creating environments that support different ways of learning and thinking.

A Gentle Reminder for Parents
Parenting a child with a cognitive disability can feel challenging at times, but you are not alone. Progress may look different, but it is still progress. Your patience, advocacy, and belief in your child’s abilities create the foundation for growth, confidence, and success.
Parenting Children with Cognitive Disabilities
Parenting Children with Cognitive Disabilities
Parenting a child with a cognitive disability means supporting a child who learns, processes information, and understands the world differently. These differences are not a lack of intelligence or effort—they reflect how a child’s brain works. With patience, understanding, and the right supports, children with cognitive disabilities can grow, learn, and thrive.

Lead With Patience and Understanding
Children with cognitive disabilities may need more time, repetition, or support to learn new skills. Meeting them where they are—and adjusting expectations—builds confidence and trust.

Break Learning Into Manageable Steps
Large tasks can feel overwhelming. Break instructions into smaller parts, use visual supports, and repeat information as needed. Progress often happens gradually and steadily.

Use Consistent Routines
Predictable routines help children feel safe and reduce confusion. Clear structure supports independence and lowers frustration.

Focus on Strengths and Effort
Notice what your child does well—creativity, kindness, persistence, problem-solving, or hands-on skills. Celebrating effort helps build motivation and self-esteem.

Support Emotional Well-Being
Children with cognitive disabilities may feel frustrated, anxious, or discouraged. Help them name emotions, take breaks, and learn coping strategies. Emotional support is just as important as academic support.

Partnering With Schools and Support Teams
Many children with cognitive disabilities benefit from school-based supports such as special education services or accommodations. Collaborating with teachers, specialists, and support staff helps ensure your child’s needs are met across environments.
Parents play an essential role by:
  • Asking questions and sharing observations
  • Participating in IEP or support meetings
  • Advocating for appropriate services
  • Celebrating progress, not just outcomes

Physical, Developmental,
​or Motor Disabilities
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Understanding Physical, Developmental, and Motor Disabilities
Physical, developmental, and motor disabilities affect how a person moves, coordinates their body, or completes physical tasks. These differences may impact strength, balance, fine or gross motor skills, or overall mobility. They can be present from birth or develop over time due to illness, injury, or neurological differences.

What These Disabilities Can Look Like
These disabilities may show up in different ways, including:
  • Difficulty with walking, balance, or coordination
  • Challenges with fine motor skills such as writing, buttoning, or using tools
  • Muscle weakness, stiffness, or limited range of motion
  • Delayed motor development or motor planning challenges
  • Fatigue or needing more time to complete physical tasks
Each individual’s experience is unique, and abilities can vary widely.

Strengths, Support, and Inclusion
Children and teens with physical, developmental, or motor disabilities often develop strong problem-solving skills, persistence, adaptability, and self-awareness. With accessible environments, adaptive tools, and supportive relationships, they can participate fully and meaningfully in daily life.

The focus is not on changing the individual, but on removing barriers and creating spaces where different bodies and abilities are valued and supported.
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A Supportive Reminder for Parents

​​Parenting a child with a physical, developmental,
or motor disability can come with unique challenges.
It can also come with deep connection, resilience, and growth.

Progress may look different, but it is meaningful.

Your advocacy, patience, and belief in your child’s abilities
create opportunities for success and inclusion.
Parenting Children with Physical, 
Developmental, or Motor Disabilities
Parenting Children with Physical, Developmental, or Motor Disabilities
Parenting a child with a physical, developmental, or motor disability means supporting a child whose body moves or develops differently. These differences are not a limitation on who your child is or what they can become. With understanding, flexibility, and the right supports, children can build independence, confidence, and a strong sense of self.

Parenting Approaches That Make a Difference
Focus on Abilities, Not Limits
Notice what your child can do and build from there. Strength-based encouragement helps children feel capable and motivated, even when tasks take more time or effort.

Adapt the Environment
Small changes—adaptive tools, accessible spaces, or modified routines—can reduce frustration and increase independence. The goal is to make daily life easier, not to force children to fit into spaces that don’t support them.

Encourage Independence at Their Pace
Support your child in learning new skills while respecting their physical needs. Independence may look different, but every step toward autonomy matters.

Support Emotional Well-Being
Children may feel frustrated, self-conscious, or discouraged at times. Create space for feelings, offer reassurance, and remind them that needing support is okay.

Maintain Predictable Routines
Consistency helps children feel secure and confident. Clear routines and expectations reduce stress and support participation.

Partnering With Professionals and Schools
Many children benefit from working with therapists, medical providers, and educators. Collaboration ensures your child’s needs are supported across settings.
Parents can help by:
  • Communicating regularly with care teams
  • Participating in IEP or 504 planning when applicable
  • Advocating for accessibility and accommodations
  • Sharing insights about what works best for their child


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